There are circumstances where the grief that accompanies the death of a close friend or loved one can be overwhelming. But it is vital to know that you can cope with the loss and that there are people around you who are willing to help so you won’t go through it alone.
Below is a brief description of ways you can deal with grief.
Participate in customs
One of the best ways to get started on the recovery path is by participating in customs that are associated with funerals.
It is comforting to be in the presence of others who knew the deceased and could be feeling the same emotions as you.
Expressing and releasing emotions
It could be that listening to a particular song (or singing it) brings back memories of the departed. And with it, a flood of emotions.
But don’t stop it. Let it flow! If you feel like crying or expressing your emotions, don’t worry about or try to stop yourself. Crying is a healthy way and natural human response to release emotional pain. As time passes, remembering memories become less painful, and you will be able to handle grief better.
Talk about it but don’t push yourself
Some people find it helpful when talking about their loss to another person. It can be a stranger like a therapist or a close friend they can confide in.
However, not all of us are like that. Many people don’t talk for various reasons or hesitate in opening up to someone. And until they do, it is best that you find another way of expressing your emotions.
It could be through a poem, journal or a piece of art. The Taj Mahal is an excellent example of how one man expressed his grief for his wife through a monumental artwork.
No one should pressure you to talk. But, whether privately or publicly, you need to let it out one way or another instead of burying them in which can develop into unhealed or confusing feelings.
Be open to support and preserving memories
Often after the loss of a loved one, we have family and friends who offer support. It’ll do you good to accept support from people who know you. However, if you feel that your close ties cannot relate with you, try and join a support group.
As you release your emotions, preserve your memories through tributes. It could be from planting a tree to participating in charity runs. This will go a long way to help you heal.
In conclusion, if you’ve just participated in a funeral in Singapore and are aware of a person grieving, allow them to go through it at their own pace. Let them express their emotions freely and when they are ready. Support the person by encouraging them to try out the above steps with patience and empathy so they can be on their way to healing.